Feeling like you belong
As the most social species on the planet, it is important for us to feel as though we belong and are cared about. This includes experiencing being included, appreciated, liked, valued and loved by other people. In fact, it is as important as oxygen is to our body.
The challenge with living such busy lives these days, people can end up feeling numb from the neck down. In other words, knowing that others care about them but not feeling this internally.
Building self worth from the inside out:
Self worth is a very beneficial inner strength you can grow.
Step One: Notice experiences where you are seen, heard, liked, appreciated and loved.
We all have moments each day where some form of caring comes our way. This could be:
Your dog wagging its tail.
A smile at the grocery store.
An email response.
A conversation at morning tea.
And, because of how our mind works, the majority of these moments float past us, like water through a sieve.
The key then is to look for these moments and notice them happening.
Step Two. Install this experience of caring
Once you have noticed an experience of caring, stay with it and see if you can turn it into a feeling. Breathe it in for a few breaths.
By adding this additional step we are tagging this experience as a ‘keeper’, drip by drip filling up our sense of belonging at a neurological level. Doing this on a regular basis can dramatically change your life.
And the good news….
As people feel confident in their self worth, they tend to become more modest, humble and less contentious. Relationships improve as a result and conflict decreases because the mind moves out of being in high alert for rejection and more able to see the different perspectives of the situation.
Free mediations to help feel cared about and build self worth.
Below are some meditations taking you through the process of noticing and installing different types of caring such as being seen, appreciated, valued, and loved.
The skills above and the inner practices below are taught as part of Positive Neuroplasticity Training that Karyn Chalk teaches.